How I Do It: ‘I love blue-balling men – welcome to a week in my sex life’
How I Do It, the series that gives you a sneak peek into seven days in the sex life of a stranger.This week, we hear from writer Christopher, who says he enjoys things like sadism, domination, cruising and group activities, and describes himself as ‘a bit of a serial dater’.He defines his sexuality as ‘romantically gay but sexually bi’, and explains that he’ll happily use the gay label, but will still sleep with women. ‘I used to hate the idea of sex, he says, ‘mainly due to body issues but as time went on and a deluded sense of confidence descended I threw shyness to the wind and started sleeping around from my 20s onwards’.His self-confidence motto is ‘no one cares about you more than you care about yourself’. ‘Although it sounds like a twisted insult,’ he explains, ‘it grounds me in the sense that my insecurities probably don’t even register with the other person.’I finally managed a long overdue hook-up with a lad called Luke* who I knew very little else about other than his name.
I met him online a few weeks ago, but as we tried to arrange a meetup we kept missing each other. The only solid information I knew about him was he is hung, with long, scruffy blonde hair akin to that of a love-child of Kurt Cobain and Michael Langdon from American Horror Story: Apocalypse.
